10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE – PART 2

Please read below: The continuation of “10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE”

6.- Many psychiatrists and psychologists have always told me that I have hobbies that I like and dedicate myself to them: cinema, theater, music, etc. I mainly work in the cinema. I go to the cinema to do the criticism for the Ura Macarena blog and I usually watch many movies on television. Cinema enriches and enhances my imagination. I read magazines and books about cinema and it teaches me to fill my mind with good feelings. In the cinema I feel very protected and very comfortable. And at home I feel happiness when I watch movies. I invite everyone to have healthy hobbies to enrich your lives, to fill your times, to give meaning to what you do, to be able to say: I am capable of doing what I want with my time and nobody directs my life.
7.- Once, speaking with a psychologist about the things that I like, I said that traveling was a very healthy thing for me. She invited me to do it at least twice a year. That’s what I do: I usually go to Madrid, my second favorite city after Seville, in summer. And to Arcos de la Frontera, which this year I have changed for Aracena, for Christmas. Travel enriches the person a lot. You meet new people, you feel liberated in another environment very different from your usual one and you provide happiness to your most intimate self. I like to get lost in Madrid, for its thousands of streets. Feel an anonymous being in the marabunta of a big city, one more among millions of people. That anonymity gives me happiness, freedom, to feel comfortable with myself. I invite everyone to travel, economically as I do because I can not spend a lot of money because my pension is small, but it allows me to be four days out. You will feel new.
8.- Something very important that I learned from a philosophy teacher and a psychiatrist is that you have to learn to relativize. Not all problems are as fat as we thought at first. If we relativize, we will see the everyday realities smaller. Let’s not make a world of everything. Let us not let the anguish eat us. Let’s not let them be bigger than us. Let us triumph over our own evils and let us demonstrate how much we are capable of. Relativizing life is more bearable and big problems are minimized. The only truly urgent thing is health. She does take care of it, relativizing our mental problems to simply be happier.
9.- I learned from an old girlfriend, whom I left to marry the one who was my wife and who would later leave me, who is very important the relaxation, which leads meditation, to Zen. She was a true expert in this practice. He was able to take hours in the same posture and meditate, learning to leave the mind better and better blank. It’s hard for me to leave my mind blank. 
She was teaching me when I left her. I regret it, but it has no remedy. I do relaxation in the Ura. I almost always stay a little asleep when I practice relaxation in the Ura. The monitor does so well with her sweet voice that it is almost impossible not to fall asleep. And I am not the only one. More than one partner falls asleep. At home, many times when I am very nervous I relax and do a bit of meditation remembering what my old girlfriend taught me. She advanced quite a bit with her. I think if I had continued with her my life would have been very different. But already lamenting has no remedy. Thanks to having married I have a son, which I could not have with her. So you always have to try to look at the positive side of things. Almost everything has a positive side that you have to know how to look for. You just have to put some effort and be strong in times of weakness, which are many, and in times of despair, which are even more. But always relativize to be flexible with ourselves. NOT ALL MUST BE PERFECT.
10.- When I went to do the military I got rid of my nervous problems. Something good I got him to be bad with nerves. You already see that you always have to look for the positive side of events. The president of the Medical Court told me that what I really had to do was love, get out of myself and love life, people, things that I did. He told me that I was sick because I did not know how to love.
 It is curious the reflection that made me all a president of a Military Court. I failed love. And I think he was right. I have made many mistakes loving: my parents, my partners, my friends. I try to learn a little every day to really love. That is the last advice I give you: that you adequately love all the beings that are important to you. Come out of you, protected, and offer yourself to others with total sincerity. Always protected so as not to suffer more than the account. Loving is risky if we do not protect ourselves. From the military I got that teaching the time I was in the hospital admitted waiting for the ruling of the Court. I learned a lot. It has been more than 30 years and I am still an apprentice lover in the broadest sense of the word. Love fills everything. All creatures deserve a little of ourselves. And I regret the mistakes made by loving, which were more an act of selfishness than anything else. I failed a lot with my parents and I failed with my ex-wife, without being justified in leaving me because I could have been a little more flexible with myself. DO NOT STOP LOVING. It is my last advice.
I want to add finally that I often make mistakes by applying my own advice because they are not easy, but I keep on fighting. I am stronger than I think and I hope to be stronger day by day with all my weaknesses and my imperfections. I encourage you to keep going and to have strength of will and to draw strength from weakness when you feel the temptation of abandonment. Never give up Death will come and it will catch us living, not dying. There is the resurrection to raise your head again and say: I HAVE RESURRECTED. That is, I have survived my own self, my own limitations, my shortcomings and bad pretenses, my crises and my bad moments. Life is the triumph over death. And I believe that God exists and will help us make more sense of our life. Health and luck.

10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE – PART 1

Throughout my life I have always tried to learn from the good advice that psychologists and psychiatrists have given me, as well as friends and other people with whom I have been interacting. I did not want to be a mere passive object and I have always tried to learn to improve my life, although many times it costs more work than the account and the theory falls apart in a resounding way. But in those moments is when you have to apply the following motto: “The true winner is the one who never gives up. Sooner or later it will end up triumphing . ” That is to say, we must be patient, be more patient to wait for the triumph without failing, although we must draw strength from weakness anywhere, even where one believes there is nothing at all.
I wanted to make a kind of decalogue to lend a hand to all readers who read me faithfully every week. These tips are a brief summary of what I have learned throughout my life. These are my humble tips:
1.- A psychiatrist (I will not give names so that no one feels involved in my affairs and preserve confidentiality) once told me that I had to hold on to something that would cause me real hope to have her with me at all times. He asked me which soccer team was my favorite and I replied that Sevilla Football Club. It was the beginning of this golden age of Seville where he has won four UEFA Europa League cups and is on his way to the fifth if everything goes well. Then he told me to hold on to it, to the football team, to his triumphs, to make them my own. And I listened to him. I am a follower of Sevilla FC even more since then and I really enjoy their victories, although it is also true that now I am saddened more by their defeats, but they do not abound. Sevilla has a handicap that does not win away from home, but that is a minor problem because it is in the final of the Copa del Rey along with FC Barcelona, ​​in the UEFA Europa League quarter-finals with Athletic Bilbao and sixth in the regular season. An excellent career that fills me with joy and allows me to put a bit of enthusiasm in my daily life and enjoy even more on weekends. I follow Sevilla in teletext, usually from Atresmedia. This is a reason for happiness and illusion, but there are as many as there are people. I invite those who are most desperate to look within themselves for a reason for the illusion as that psychiatrist told me. Surely they will find it because in life not everything is negative and also: LIFE CAN BE WONDERFUL. in the UEFA Europa League quarter-finals with Athletic Bilbao and sixth in the regular season. An excellent career that fills me with joy and allows me to put a bit of enthusiasm in my daily life and enjoy even more on weekends. I follow Sevilla in teletext, usually from Atresmedia. This is a reason for happiness and illusion, but there are as many as there are people. I invite those who are most desperate to look within themselves for a reason for the illusion as that psychiatrist told me. Surely they will find it because in life not everything is negative and also: LIFE CAN BE WONDERFUL. in the UEFA Europa League quarter-finals with Athletic Bilbao and sixth in the regular season. An excellent career that fills me with joy and allows me to put a bit of enthusiasm in my daily life and enjoy even more on weekends. I follow Sevilla in teletext, usually from Atresmedia. This is a reason for happiness and illusion, but there are as many as there are people. I invite those who are most desperate to look within themselves for a reason for the illusion as that psychiatrist told me. Surely they will find it because in life not everything is negative and also: LIFE CAN BE WONDERFUL. normally from Atresmedia. This is a reason for happiness and illusion, but there are as many as there are people. I invite those who are most desperate to look within themselves for a reason for the illusion as that psychiatrist told me. Surely they will find it because in life not everything is negative and also: LIFE CAN BE WONDERFUL. normally from Atresmedia. This is a reason for happiness and illusion, but there are as many as there are people. I invite those who are most desperate to look within themselves for a reason for the illusion as that psychiatrist told me. Surely they will find it because in life not everything is negative and also: LIFE CAN BE WONDERFUL.
2.- A psychologist once told me that when someone asked me how I was responding, well. By dint of repeating that I was fine I would get better. And that also works. Normally it is said: let’s throw. But it is more effective to say that we are well, even if it is not true, but psychologically one feels better and ends up feeling comforted, warm, blessed. In life there are many reasons to be wrong, but from time to time there are reasons to feel good. And that must be recognized: NOBODY IS BAD 24 HOURS A DAY. Well in good times we have to say that we are fine. And in the moments when we are bad we also have to say that we are well so that our mind gets used to the goodness of the feelings and to the simple and plain happiness.
3.- A psychiatrist, who just retired because he fell bad with nerves because of taking his profession to heart, told me once that above all to get out of my problems and my illness had to rely on myself . And if necessary, in someone or something else. And it’s true: ONE HAS TO GET OUT THE STRENGTH OF ITSELF. He can not wait for others to give him strength. It can not be waiting forever. Let’s see if so-and-so helps me, or to see if zutanito gives me what I need to be happy. That psychological pill of happiness we have to get from ourselves. We are our own strength, our main source of energy. And if we do not have enough, then resort to a person, but only to one, in whom to deposit our heart whenever it deserves it and to whom we do not bother. Or resort to something that is our source of security, our existence insurance. But above all is OUR OWN ENERGY. If we have a great capacity to suffer and harm ourselves, that capacity can also be used to get ahead and say: I HAVE GOT IT WITHOUT ANYONE’S HELP. That psychiatrist was absolutely right. I rely on myself before anyone else as a sign of love for myself and a fundamental application of the general principle of Christianity: LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF. Well, that’s what it’s about: love of oneself, our virtues and also our shortcomings. similarly that capacity can be used to get ahead and say: I HAVE GOT IT WITHOUT ANYONE’S HELP. That psychiatrist was absolutely right. I rely on myself before anyone else as a sign of love for myself and a fundamental application of the general principle of Christianity: LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF. Well, that’s what it’s about: love of oneself, our virtues and also our shortcomings. similarly that capacity can be used to get ahead and say: I HAVE GOT IT WITHOUT ANYONE’S HELP. That psychiatrist was absolutely right. I rely on myself before anyone else as a sign of love for myself and a fundamental application of the general principle of Christianity: LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF. Well, that’s what it’s about: love of oneself, our virtues and also our shortcomings.
4.- When I was a child and my parents took me to the first psychiatrist, he told me to dedicate myself to something that I really liked. I told him that I liked to write, so I decided to dedicate myself to Literature with only 7 years. I combined my studies and my games with Literature. I was always writing, on the street above all, in some green notebooks that I had. I still have some of those green notebooks that I keep with a lot of love because they are my principles as a writer. Literature does not feed me. I have had to work in many jobs, I have paid Social Security enough to be entitled to a contributory pension. That now allows me greater freedom for creation. Those who follow me know of my published books. Right now I have my last book of poetry in the publishing house, last in all respects, entitled The nymphs of spite. I am working on my first novel titled Monologue in neurotic key. I have dedicated most of my time to this recently completed Holy Week. Literature gives me happiness and emotional stability. It helps me to evacuate everything I have inside me and it helps me to expiate my anguish and overcome my crises and bad times. 
I invite everyone to look for something that they really like so they invest their time in a positive way and make them feel better in every way, including the best person. Literature I feel that makes me a better person, that gives me extraordinary strength to live. When I sell my books it’s like sharing my life with everyone else. Although they are 100 books. I do not care about the amount. The important thing is to be myself in the others and to be myself in the literary creation. And enjoy happiness as much as possible. 

The next part of “10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE” will be out and publish on April 27 2019 – So stay tuned!