10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE – PART 2

10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE – PART 2

Please read below: The continuation of “10 TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE”

6.- Many psychiatrists and psychologists have always told me that I have hobbies that I like and dedicate myself to them: cinema, theater, music, etc. I mainly work in the cinema. I go to the cinema to do the criticism for the Ura Macarena blog and I usually watch many movies on television. Cinema enriches and enhances my imagination. I read magazines and books about cinema and it teaches me to fill my mind with good feelings. In the cinema I feel very protected and very comfortable. And at home I feel happiness when I watch movies. I invite everyone to have healthy hobbies to enrich your lives, to fill your times, to give meaning to what you do, to be able to say: I am capable of doing what I want with my time and nobody directs my life.
7.- Once, speaking with a psychologist about the things that I like, I said that traveling was a very healthy thing for me. She invited me to do it at least twice a year. That’s what I do: I usually go to Madrid, my second favorite city after Seville, in summer. And to Arcos de la Frontera, which this year I have changed for Aracena, for Christmas. Travel enriches the person a lot. You meet new people, you feel liberated in another environment very different from your usual one and you provide happiness to your most intimate self. I like to get lost in Madrid, for its thousands of streets. Feel an anonymous being in the marabunta of a big city, one more among millions of people. That anonymity gives me happiness, freedom, to feel comfortable with myself. I invite everyone to travel, economically as I do because I can not spend a lot of money because my pension is small, but it allows me to be four days out. You will feel new.
8.- Something very important that I learned from a philosophy teacher and a psychiatrist is that you have to learn to relativize. Not all problems are as fat as we thought at first. If we relativize, we will see the everyday realities smaller. Let’s not make a world of everything. Let us not let the anguish eat us. Let’s not let them be bigger than us. Let us triumph over our own evils and let us demonstrate how much we are capable of. Relativizing life is more bearable and big problems are minimized. The only truly urgent thing is health. She does take care of it, relativizing our mental problems to simply be happier.
9.- I learned from an old girlfriend, whom I left to marry the one who was my wife and who would later leave me, who is very important the relaxation, which leads meditation, to Zen. She was a true expert in this practice. He was able to take hours in the same posture and meditate, learning to leave the mind better and better blank. It’s hard for me to leave my mind blank. 
She was teaching me when I left her. I regret it, but it has no remedy. I do relaxation in the Ura. I almost always stay a little asleep when I practice relaxation in the Ura. The monitor does so well with her sweet voice that it is almost impossible not to fall asleep. And I am not the only one. More than one partner falls asleep. At home, many times when I am very nervous I relax and do a bit of meditation remembering what my old girlfriend taught me. She advanced quite a bit with her. I think if I had continued with her my life would have been very different. But already lamenting has no remedy. Thanks to having married I have a son, which I could not have with her. So you always have to try to look at the positive side of things. Almost everything has a positive side that you have to know how to look for. You just have to put some effort and be strong in times of weakness, which are many, and in times of despair, which are even more. But always relativize to be flexible with ourselves. NOT ALL MUST BE PERFECT.
10.- When I went to do the military I got rid of my nervous problems. Something good I got him to be bad with nerves. You already see that you always have to look for the positive side of events. The president of the Medical Court told me that what I really had to do was love, get out of myself and love life, people, things that I did. He told me that I was sick because I did not know how to love.
 It is curious the reflection that made me all a president of a Military Court. I failed love. And I think he was right. I have made many mistakes loving: my parents, my partners, my friends. I try to learn a little every day to really love. That is the last advice I give you: that you adequately love all the beings that are important to you. Come out of you, protected, and offer yourself to others with total sincerity. Always protected so as not to suffer more than the account. Loving is risky if we do not protect ourselves. From the military I got that teaching the time I was in the hospital admitted waiting for the ruling of the Court. I learned a lot. It has been more than 30 years and I am still an apprentice lover in the broadest sense of the word. Love fills everything. All creatures deserve a little of ourselves. And I regret the mistakes made by loving, which were more an act of selfishness than anything else. I failed a lot with my parents and I failed with my ex-wife, without being justified in leaving me because I could have been a little more flexible with myself. DO NOT STOP LOVING. It is my last advice.
I want to add finally that I often make mistakes by applying my own advice because they are not easy, but I keep on fighting. I am stronger than I think and I hope to be stronger day by day with all my weaknesses and my imperfections. I encourage you to keep going and to have strength of will and to draw strength from weakness when you feel the temptation of abandonment. Never give up Death will come and it will catch us living, not dying. There is the resurrection to raise your head again and say: I HAVE RESURRECTED. That is, I have survived my own self, my own limitations, my shortcomings and bad pretenses, my crises and my bad moments. Life is the triumph over death. And I believe that God exists and will help us make more sense of our life. Health and luck.

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